I was dumbfounded when I began piecing together all that V. had done over the years.
I saw V. as a gentleman. In the fall of 1997, I needed to go to V’s workplace to conduct business. Despite some awkward moments the previous spring, V was most welcoming and invited me to see his new but temporary “office”. To me, this was being a gentleman.
V was also always friendly. Always. He would greet everyone with a smile. He was pleasant. We would exchange greetings. The same type of behavior occurred when we would run into each other out and about – which did not happen all that often outside of work.
I was at V’s work less and less often over the years. I have worked full time for 5 1/2 years since the winter of 2011. None of those jobs were even in V’s town. There have been years when I have worked on a daily basis. The last year I did that, I worked at V’s location 1 day.
It is confusing when trying to stick a label on someone. I am definitely not an expert. I am just a person trying to make sense out of the behavior of someone who has greatly impacted my life.
There are perceptions that people have regarding: Anti-social Personality Disorder, Sociopath, or Psychopath. When we hear the term psychopath many of us assume that all psychopaths are violent. Not so. The example most often given is that there are psychopaths who are shrewd businessmen.
According to some experts, psychopaths and sociopaths are the same. Others make a distinction between the two. Whichever way one uses the labels, there are those who do not have social skills and are loners, and there are some who have learned to act very sociable.
- Acting witty and charming to get obtain something
- Not showing guilt or remorse for actions
- Manipulating others
- Some are not sly, but others are quite deceptive
- Little regard for another’s rights or experiences
- Shallow emotions
Am I correct? I don’t know. I do know that I have never stalked V. I don’t know how V does it, but he finds out where I am going to be and tries to make it look like I followed him there.
After all, I do not have the power to convince all eight Tahoe bound families to go to Tahoe the week V is going. That is way beyond anyone’s skills.